What makes a place home?

I'm pretty sure we all have some idea of how our dream home would look. Mine is a double brick 5 bedroom house with immaculate green lawn, bright white interiors filled with classic timeless furniture and plenty of storage so everything would look neat and beautiful. Basically, something the clever people at Coral Homes would build. Something like this:
Source: Coral Homes
The reality for me, however, is this:
And this:
 And this:
Sigh.

But as the saying goes, home is where the heart is. And now that I have a piece of my heart running around in the form of a one year old boy, reigning havoc wherever he goes, I've finally realised that home is not made by the fancy furniture and perfect, uncluttered house. It is actually the little details and imperfections that make a place home....things like the sound of laughter, books piled high on a shelf, family photos lining the wall, the smell of cooking, conversations that flow while breaking bread.

My home is far from the picture perfect house of my dreams but it is the place where Alexander said his first words, laughed for the first time and crawled on all fours, chasing after Frankie. It is the place where Stu and I fought and said angry words to each other, but also the place where we eventually kissed and made up. It is in my kitchen where I failed miserably at making semolina cake but hey, that's where (according to Stu) the best Sunday roasts are made. And that, to me is what makes a place home.

What makes a place home to you?

26 Responses to What makes a place home?

lisacng @ expandng.com said...

Awww, in a drawer, how cute! Definitely we gotta make our home wherever we are, and take it with us wherever we go. You can't do that with THINGS but with feelings and emotions.

Jane @ anothermommablog.blogspot.com said...

well said! My home is like that most of the time, lol! But as long as my kiddos are happy, I guess my dream for a pretty house with nice furniture and well manicured lawn can wait :)

Rowena @ rolala loves said...

What a cutie! For me home is about the comfort the space gives me and who I share it with.

Rowena @ rolala loves

Kelsea Echo said...

HAH totally. That is exactly what happens (what I like to call the "if only" pic vs. the "reality" pic). Nothing can beat that baby in a drawer photo, though - way better than any picturesque, empty house! :)

Tina Bradley said...

Gorgeous home. Beautiful little boy! I fondly remember our oldest son playing in the cabinets and drawers. The younger one never took an interest in these spaces, though. Hugs, T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

burntfeather said...

That's really sweet :) Being in a rental, home is definitely where my heart is, where my lovely boyfriend and cat and chickens and I'll shamefully admit where my internet connection is as well :P

Enara Girl said...

i love the pictures. I have smiled :D
xoxo

Niken said...

hahaha, alexander in the drawer. cracks me up. i think 'home' is the feeling of comfort and safety. no matter where we are. i can't list things that make me home, but the morning coffee that brewing from my blue french press always calms me down and give me hope for a new day. i guess the memory that we make in a house also makes it a home. but as for house, i'm dreaming of my own little back yard one day

Ananka said...

This is suh a good post. I know how you feel about that! Such cute photos :-)

Juju at Tales of Whimsy.com said...

I feel ya. I've never had a picture perfect home but I was a person that always had everything exactly where it belonged. Not so much anymore.

I know I have years before I can actually get the girls to keep their toys in their rooms but just like you said, it's those little bits of them around the house that make it home right now. Sometimes I even find rocks, figurines, and stuffed animals in my bed and it just makes me smile.

Katrina Sophia said...

This is one of the most honest posts I've ever read! The pictures of your little one is just adorable.

Katrina Sophia

Rose said...

As long everyone is together and house is cosy, that is called a home. Currently my house is like what you have. ;)

JoaNNa said...

So cute! I've been living away from my family for the past 8 years, so home is really where my family and friends are :)

Anouk said...

During my student years I moved quite a lot so the most unthinkable places can all of a sudden turn into 'home'.

Beatrice Euphemie said...

Wonderful post- you have said it beautifully. It is the love that goes into it that makes a home, wherever it may be. Love the photos of your sweet little boy. My home was always a mess with 4 children, but it was a happy mess and full of joy, and yes, those angry fights. If only the walls could speak......I love your kitchen floors, especially with your beautiful child on them. xo Karen

Draffin Bears said...

Hi Trishie,

Your home is lovely and how adorable are the sweet photos of your little darling.
Yes,I can relate to the lego and duplo over the floor. I think it is far more important to have a happy and loving, comfortable home.

Enjoy the week
hugs
Carolyn

trishie said...

@Juju I used to be just like you. Hated mess and clutter and believed everything should be in its rightful spot all of the time. Alex doesn't agree though! And I've given up

trishie said...

@JoaNNa I totally understand what you're saying. Before I married Stu I too had no family in Australia so depended a lot on my friends to feel a sense of home

trishie said...

@lisacng that's absolutely true! Possessions do not a home make

kidgranny said...

I agree with you! Home is where the heart is. & Alexander, oh my! He is such a cutie pie :) The photo of him in the drawer and him pulling out all the tissues out of the box (& smiling!!) -- so precious :)

Mandy Webb said...

Such a lovely post, Trishie. We have moved so many times in the last few years and sometimes, we had to live in the least "homely" of places. But at the end of the day, being with the people you love is simply home xx

Sharon D said...

I feel the same way about 'home'. It holds our most treasured moments xo

rooth said...

Hahaha oh Alexander, what a cheeky boy - I love those snaps

Rigel Barry said...

I can totally relate to this. I have collected so many images of my dream home design but at the moment my dream home has crayon on the walls, a makeshift cubby in the lounge room (with sheets and pillows) and a floor full of crumbs and two giggling monkeys. I always used to look at the 'at home' specials with a family home and think, wow how to they keep their house looking so amazing and clean??... and then I remember that it's a very carefully styled photo and probably only stayed like that for 10mins while the picture was taken. :)

trishie said...

@Rigel I'd have the giggling monkeys over a picture picture house any day! Thanks for leaving such a wonderful comment

ChristopherJames said...

Kids do make a home and sometimes the mess is quite adorable too, no? Haha! At that age, there's not much you can do about it though. They have ea knack for getting into everything. Things will get better when they get older and can understand you. Then you can really implement some solutions to keep the house clean and tidy!