|Melissa and one day old Warrie|
Same deal when Warrie was born, except this time Mr M had a job so I was able to return to work with reduced hours, as in a 30-hour week instead of a 35-hour week (oh yeah a big reduction - not!).
Wake up, shower, feed children, unpack dishwasher, dress children, pack dishwasher, herd children to car, drop children off at daycare, sit in traffic on wayto office, work, sit in traffic on way home, have a quiet 40 minutes at home to prep dinner for children and Mr M (and hopefully have a cuppa!), pick up children from daycare, feed children, unpack dishwasher, bathe children, start dinner for Mr M and I, dress children for bed, give children milk and let TV babysit whilst I check on dinner, put children to bed, keep fingers crossed that they go to sleep so I can finish making dinner, eat dinner, prep lunches for daycare, pack dishwasher, sit down for 30-minutes in front of the telly and veg out, go to bed.
I’ve just read through that and it has exhausted me…. I can’t believe I’m only halfway through all that for today!
But it’s all about survival – I am doing whatever I can to help my family survive. It’s not what I want for myself or my children, and it certainly is not how I envisaged being a mother, but it is my reality and I’m doing the best that I can.
Motherhood is… oh geez, how do you finish that sentence? Motherhood is hard, and not always appreciated, and never ending, and scary, and fun, and heartbreaking, and joyful, and fulfilling… and the most amazing journey that I have ever been on
Melissa, thank you so much for your admirable honesty! Your account shows the reality for mums engaged in full time paid work - your day's work does not end at 5pm. You work at work and you work at home, you work around the clock. You're an inspiration to me and I think you are an awesome mum.